My husband and I attended a Chonda Pierce Comedy show recently. I sadly didn’t know of her before this night. We were blessed with tickets to her performance and it was life changing. She was so funny that I wish I had known of her earlier! She was hilarious! (a few videos are at the end of this post) She was also very open and honest about learning to deal with depression, estranged relationships, and the recent loss of her husband. One thing she said really spoke to me. I can’t remember her exact words ( I was too busy laughing or crying to write it all down ) but she basically said that life is too short to get caught up in the things that don’t really matter.
It is such a simple piece of wisdom yet such a heavy piece of advice at the same time. I know more than a few times each day my husband and I get caught up in the things that don’t really matter. We don’t do it on purpose and I think we learn more each day how to handle ourselves better. No one is guaranteed tomorrow. My family has gone thru many ups and downs in the past few years. We have been thru a house fire, breast cancer, lost several loved ones way too soon, my traumatizing labor and delivery, and a few things I can’t mention here. I know the plan of the enemy would be to use these things to separate all of us and make us feel like we are all alone on an island of despair. But GOD! These things have helped most of us realize that life is precious. It gave us a different perspective on life and a greater appreciation for each minute in our lives and each person in it.
In the same way Chonda Pierce suggested we not get caught up in the little things I have been given advice about enjoying my husband. I’ll just be honest with you… sometimes he does things that annoy me… and I LET them annoy me! I Love him to pieces don’t get my wrong. I am trying to listen to the advice of wiser and more experienced wives who are at a place in their lives where they know it is possible one day I will miss those things. Chonda Pierce made jokes about her husband’s snoring and how it kept her awake. But she then shared that after 31 years of it she has 3 sounds machines in her room and none of them have snoring husband as an option! I appreciate her humor taking some of the weight off of a heavy thought. I don’t want to think about my husband not being next to me…even if he is snoring… he is there. I want to appreciate every moment we have together. I want to set the best example we can for our baby girl. I want him to know that I Love him beyond words and I am positive he would say the same. I want to choose to not let things annoy me and just enjoy his presence. I am still learning how to do all of those things. I don’t know if we ever fully learn it all. Most of my life I thought that marriage was the goal… the destination. However, I am learning that marriage was just the starting point. The destination is Heaven and I think…if I am willing… marriage will prepare me for my arrival.
Check her our for yourself:
Below are some clips of Chonda Pierce. I PROMISE you will not regret watching these. I am so excited to share her with you!
[…] loss of a spouse or someone close to her I highly suggest Laughing in the Dark by Chonda Pierce. We saw her performance and I laughed and I cried. God moves thru her gift of humor and heals people… and is healing her as she adjusts to life […]