Your words can either build up your spouse or tear them down. If we would all remember that once we are married…we become one with our spouses. Therefore, if we tear them down with our words…we really hurt ourselves too! The same goes for building them up…it can only mean good for you and your marriage! The Bible has plenty to say about encouragement… here are a few verses.
Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, that it may give grace to those who hear.
and let us consider how to stimulate one another to love and good deeds,
But encourage one another day after day, as long as it is still called “Today,” lest any one of you be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin.
I hope you also enjoy these words from another marriage blog:
“Husbands, encourage your wives
Get a game plan together – and execute! Take 10 minutes out of your day and ask yourself how you can encourage her. Each day it will be something unique. Maybe it’s a simple text message, or flowers, or a surprise date. Maybe she just needs you to call her out of the blue and express a few reasons why you love her and believe in her.
The point is that you can do it as long as you make it a priority. So set a daily reminder for “encouraging my wife brainstorming” time, and make it happen!
One thing I’ve found that encourages Selena is to call her and just remind her how proud I am to be her husband. Bonus: this exercise actually has a reciprocating effect: I end up reminding myself how awesome she is and I feel great!
Wives, encourage your husbands
Ladies, you have more power than you know. I like to call it the “knight and maiden” effect. As knights, we men love to go into battle and strike down dragons. The only thing better than dragon slaying is coming home to our maidens, taking a chivalrous bow, and hearing her affectionate words of adoration. I’ve often told Selena that no matter how tough I feel or how many things I conquer, she can always bring me to my knees – I’d do anything for her. (Think Braveheart…)
As wives you can encourage or discourage with words and tones like no other person in your husband’s life. A purposeful, well placed line of encouragement can soften your husband’s heart and ease his pain. You can fill him with strength and energy, so long as you yield your power lovingly!”