When you were dating your spouse… did you think about if they liked their toilet paper over or under? (I actually asked my spouse this before we got married!… but I’m odd!) Did you talk about house decorating and each of your styles? Did you talk about things you do differently or feel differently about? I’m guessing that during the dating stage most of the conversations were about the things you agreed on and had in common. 🙂 While dating we are ignorant to the realities of marriage and our expectations are not the reality. The reality is that you will NOT always agree and you will do things differently. The trick to a happy marriage in spite of your differences is to find a compromise and to embrace the differences. My husband and I do not always agree on house decor. Since we just bought our house a few months ago that has been something we have had to decide on a bit lately. I realized that I have to compromise some and he has realized that he needs to trust me (and my decor instinct) more! 😀 Also, it is good to remember the things you fell in Love with while you were dating… all those goofy things and cute little habits your spouse has…don’t let them become normal…take delight in them everyday. One day they may be gone and you will miss them. Treasure each day. 🙂 – Stacy
Expect differences. You are two different people. You have different likes and dislikes. You will see the world in different ways. You will problem solve differently. This is reality. Differences will exist, and sometimes they will cause conflict.