I read the other day somewhere that sex is a totally different thing for men than what women think is it for men. They said that women take the advances of men and equate them to basically an animal. But they said for men it was more of the desire to be with the one they Love. I know in a marriage it’s hard to talk about some things. Sex can be one of those things. But I also know that God gave us sex…within the boundaries of marriage to be a beautiful thing. Yes sex takes a lot of energy and its not always convenient but isn’t that just like a lot of other things we make time for in our lives? If we can make time to watch the shows we recorded we can make time for our spouse.
If your spouse initiates sex…but in a way that is really not appealing to you…tell them in a polite way. If you would rather them do something more romantic to “get in the mood”… let them know a song they could put on for you… or movie you might like to watch together and cuddle during. Or if you would rather your spouse be more direct… let them know that you would enjoy if every now and then they would just grab you and kiss you…like when you were dating or newlyweds.
Sex is something special. A husband and wife become one. The two are connected on a physical level and a spiritual level at the same time. There is a reason God reserved sex for marriage and it is because it a beautiful gift unlike any other that husbands and wives can give to each other…without the fear of rejection. If you can’t be your true self with your spouse… then who can you do that with? And if you don’t feel like you can be your true self with your spouse… sit down and talk with them about why you feel that way. Sex…I really should call it making Love…should be more about reconnecting with your spouse than anything physically pleasing. Think of it as a conversation with no words. What do you actions tell your spouse? Do they say I Love you and I put your needs (not just in the bedroom) before my own. Do they say I think you are amazing and I am so blessed to be married to you? Do they say…I desire you above everything else? – Stacy
Is your lovemaking out of balance? This is a touchy topic but if your spouse is almost always the one who initiates physical intimacy, he or she may not be really satisfied – even if you say “Yes.” The real desire is to be desired. Take the first step. via Daily Marriage Tip « For Your Marriage.
