As women we crave the approval and pleasure of our authorities. When we are little we need that from our Daddy especially. Many never receive the affirmation and words they need from that Father figure in their lives. Without fail they will seek it out from somewhere else. Even non-Christian psychologists and counselors have found a link between affirmation from our father figure and self esteem in future relationships.
I am one of the many that has a touch/words of affirmation love language. Like many, I married a man that does not share those love languages. He is quality time. At the beginning of our marriage we struggled because where he would show me with actions and time, I wanted to hear what he felt from his lips. I craved those words of approval not only about my physical appearance but my work and wifely duties.
This week was a rough one in many ways. As pastors do, I was getting a little discouraged. I didn’t realize that what I was craving was some words to let me know someone saw my hard work and sacrifice. I opened the refrigerator to get the milk and out tumbled a thank you card. From who, from my prince! God had spoken to the priest of my home in his devotional time and he wrote me a beautiful note thanking me for my ministry to our church and the women. It brought tears to my eyes, not only because my husband loved me enough to write out those words, but because God my Father saw that unspoken cry in my heart and answered. What could be more beautiful than him using my husband to affirm me? That is how God works in marriage… he gives us “tips” on everything from what to say, to that little spice needed in the bedroom, if we listen!
God help us to see you as the source of all we need. I pray for all those married people out there struggling to know how to bless their spouses that we would turn and pray to you for guidance. I pray that as we step out and do those things you have called us to that the blessing would flow and the intimacy would grow in our lives.
Thanks for reading,
Celeste
