A popular word of advice to newlyweds is to “put god first in your marriage.” But what does that look like? How do you do that? What does putting God before you husband look like? It is not an easy thing to master as we are so used to doing it the other way. We make our husbands a priority because we Love them and feel this is a way to serve God. However, our husbands should not be THE priority. God should always be first. Then your husband. And then your children.
But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. Matt. 6:33
What does it look like to put God first in your marriage?
Putting God first does not mean ignoring your husband. Everything we do in service to our husbands should be out of our desire to serve God and keep Him first. In order to put God first in your marriage you must serve your husband out of your Love for God. This means that when you do something for your husband and he does not shower you with the praise you were hoping for (maybe deep down really expecting) you will be ok because you know God sees it.
How do you put God first in your marriage?
You have to make a choice to put God first in your marriage. Your Bible is not just going to jump in your lap everyday and remind you to spend time in the Word. Bowing your heart before God before you entrust it to your husband daily will save you both a lot of heartache. Having your heart bowed before God before you have a small disagreement with your husband will keep it small instead of turning into WWIII.
What does putting God before your husband look like?
Our husbands are a gift from God. Just like our children are a gift from God. And just like we spend time apart from our children alone with our husbands, we should do the same with God apart from our husbands. Make the choice to spend time in His presence daily. Keep Him as THE priority and recognize Him as that your husband is a gift from God.
When you put God first in your marriage you take so much pressure off of your husband. He no longer has to try to be your source of joy or fulfillment. Putting God first will result in Him filling your cup to overflowing so that you are able to Love your husband like Jesus.
I love this Stacy. I actually shared something similar on Sunday while ministering to a fellow wife. Such depth in your writing and very necessary at this time.