If you are asking “how to put the spark back in your marriage?” I would challenge you to ask “what put the spark out?” first.
Going on a nice date will only pacify you both for a short time. If you are constantly focused on “how to put the spark back in your marriage?” without first figuring out what put the spark out in the first place, any spark that might come back will be short lived. That cycle is exhausting and overwhelming. I do not think that was God’s intention for marriage. If our marriage is supposed to be an example of Christ and the church shouldn’t it be constant? I dare even say that our marriages should be on fire not just in search of a spark but I will save that for another blog post!
Still wondering how to put the spark back in your marriage?
Like I said, first, figure out what put out the spark. Are you getting enough alone time? Does your husband feel appreciated? Do you feel noticed and cared about? If the reason the spark went out in the first place is not addressed no matter how many times you put the spark back it will continue to go out. If getting to the bottom of the issue means a long (and maybe hard) conversation then do it. That conversation could save your marriage. That might sound extreme to some of you as “things are not that bad. But wouldn’t you rather have the long and hard conversations while you can rather than put them off and continue to drift apart, little by little, to the point where a conversation about the weather is hard much less talking about your marriage.
After you know what to avoid in the future move on to answering “how to put the spark back in your marriage?”
Jesus put the needs of others before Himself. That is what will ignite your marriage. It really comes down to putting your spouse before yourself. The answer sounds simple but putting it into practice is hard. Our flesh is selfish and we would rather have our way but Love is not self seeking. God calls us to lay down our superficial wants so we can have a supernatural marriage!
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
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Yes, Yes, YES!!!! Well said. I love that you touched on how marriages are not about our needs or what we want but about putting our spouses first. That is so key. Marriage is about unconditional love and respect. I choose to love and respect my husband because it’s my choice and what God wants regardless of how he treats me or makes me feel.
I love your writing 🙂 Preach it sista (wink) ha ha ha ha. xxx
Ah yes so true! While it can be hard at times, it is important to put our spouses before ourselves. Thanks for this reminder! Great thoughts!