How To Rekindle Intimacy In Your Marriage
Intimacy can be revived, rekindled in a marriage if both parties involved are ready to have the flame of love burn again. What is Intimacy? In my own definition it means “INTO ME SEE”. You have nothing to hide. You are asking your partner to see everything about you. No hidden agenda whatsoever.
So how do we rekindled intimacy?
BY ACTION AND ATTITUDE Don’t just tell your mate you love her. Show her that you love her. Tell her why you love her. She knows you love her; she craves to know why she wants you to say it and act it. By saying “I love you”. This increases intimacy in your marriage. By attitude you reintroduce the element of surprise by buying her unexpected gifts and organize surprise outing etc. Identify patterns and break routines and protocols. Break away from distractions and just celebrate her. Celebrate anything and everything. Strive to out-please each other. Out-pleasing each other means putting your spouse’s happiness first.
DON’T COMPARE: Marriage breaks down when you constantly compare your spouse with your Ex or someone in your office etc. Marriage also breaks down when you constantly compare your sacrifices to your mate’s. Stop comparison begin to complement.
BY ATTENTION AND AFFECTION : Your spouse wants and needs your attention and affection. She wants you to show it, demonstrate it and act it. Every woman needs affection and attention. When you do this, you rekindle the intimacy in your marriage.
DON’T BE IRRATIONAL: One of the major destructive element of marriage is being irrational. Irrational decisions can cause the break up in marriage. So don’t be irrational or judgmental towards your spouse. It kills the flame of love. Your behavior should not be eccentric towards your spouse. Don’t prove to be the “Boss” you have nothing to prove in the first place. Men are not Bosses and should not but Beacon. Light to be seen by his partner.
James Ogunyemi
