This is the second in a series of blog suggestions for strengthening your marriage. These suggestions are in no particular order of importance or effectiveness. These are just lessons I’ve learned along the way that I’m sharing with you in hopes that you may find tidbits you can apply in your relationship.
Choose your battles. You don’t always have to win every one. Some times giving peace a chance is the best solution. Proverbs 21:9 It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife. Proverbs 21:19 It is better to live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman. I really don’t like the thought of my husband choosing either of those situations over spending time with me!
I tend to be the “fighter” in the relationship. John is the amiable. He doesn’t like conflict and it seems that early on in our marriage I purposefully sought after it. It took me a long time to realize that always being right, always “winning” every argument, every battle wasn’t honoring God. I wasn’t really “winning”, but instead I was losing. I was tearing down my husband. I was tearing down our relationship. It was hard for me to give up that control, but the bible is very clear on this topic. If you struggle with this like I have, surrender it to God. Pray about it daily and He will give you the strength and self-control.
