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How to Improve Communication in Your Marriage | Stacy Hudson

May 1, 2017 by Mrs. Hudson

Have you ever wondered how to improve communication in your marriage? I know I have. Sometimes it just feels like we are speaking different languages or having two totally different conversations. There are a few simple things that we try to do to improve our communication.

How to Improve Communication in Your Marriage

Put your phone down and look them in the eye

I see it so often. Someone talking and the other person staring at their phone. This says a few things to the person talking. It tells them that whatever is on the phone screen is more important and more interesting than them. Is that how you want your husband to feel? I don’t think so. This is not how we should want anyone to feel. If you find you have a hard time doing this, start by leaving your phone in your purse in another room and purposefully go and have a conversation with your husband without it.

Don’t make it about you

When we are going through something difficult and are having a disagreement… it is easy to go on the defensive and make it about us. Often times, if we would just take the time to really listen we would realize that what our husbands are saying sheds light on deeper feelings they might have. If all we do is go on the defensive instead of soaking in what they are saying and genuinely evaluate our own hearts and motives… communication will always be an issue.

Be Honest

In a Christian marriage this should really be a given. You might be thinking “well, of course I am honest!” But has your husband ever asked you what was wrong and you replied “nothing.” Or maybe he asked if something was ok and you replied with “it’s fine.” As women we know that those words don’t mean what they should in those moments (most of the time). However, our husbands hear “nothing” and “it’s fine” and think there is nothing wrong and that it’s fine. And you know why they think that? Because it is what we told them! We can’t get mad at them for not understanding when we are the ones not being honest about our feelings.

The Bible has plenty of answers for the question “How to improve communication in your marriage?”

Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ, Ephesians 4:15 

 

But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God. James 1:19-20

 

If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Romans 12:18

 

A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a setting of silver. Like a gold ring or an ornament of gold is a wise reprover to a listening ear. Like the cold of snow in the time of harvest is a faithful messenger to those who send him; he refreshes the soul of his masters. Like clouds and wind without rain is a man who boasts of a gift he does not give. With patience a ruler may be persuaded, and a soft tongue will break a bone. Proverbs 25:11-15 

The next time you are wondering how to improve communication in your marriage, improve your communication with God and the rest will follow.

But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. Matt. 6:33

Filed Under: Better Than Newlyweds, Communication is KEY!, Marriage Monday Tagged With: communication, marriage

BUILDING UP ONE ANOTHER

June 15, 2014 by James Ogunyemi

BUILDING UP ONE ANOTHER:
The word build is another word for nurture. When you build, you are making an edifice, structure; you are constructing something visible that will catch attention and easily noticeable.

Do you know that your mate is suppose to be the most important person in your life after God?. If you have your children, your parents or friends in your spouses place of honor then you are asking for problems. You are crashing your marriage.

You cannot put the cart before the horse its not going to work. I think one of the problems of Christian Marriages is putting the cart before the horse. We make preferential treatment to our friends etc at the expense of our home.

We need to choose everyday to love our spouse with an undying love, find ways to compliments them, praise them for things they do, honor and respect them.

In building up one another we need quality time together. Be sure to touch them, hold them, hug them, kiss them.
We need to spend quality time in prayers too.
Let the line of communication be opened. Create time to talk, chat, discuss and be free to ask questions.

If you find your mate is better at something then you are do not try to tear them down praise them for their abilities and gifts. Work to help them achieve greatness. If you find them overwhelmed seek to find ways to help lift the burden.
In building up your spouse, you make room for peace to reign in your marriage. You are making room for greater things in your home.
Start out today to build up and not tear down.
James Ogunyemi

Filed Under: Better Than Newlyweds, Communication is KEY! Tagged With: Christian Marriages, communication, life, love

stop the judging: keys to a better marriage

March 26, 2014 by James Ogunyemi

Stop the Judging: Keys to a better marriage:
Your key today is to stop judging your spouse for past mistakes. I can tell you from experience that having a memory like an elephant for your spouse’s past failures will not serve you well in marriage. None of us like having past trash dragged up and throw in our face every time we have a confrontation. I like to think as I have journeyed through this life I am learning from my mistakes and also learning to improve. The question is, are you letting you spouse move past their errors in judgment or do you make sure they never forget? We are called to be encouragers of one another not the judge, jury and prosecutor. I can assure you that the devil does not need any help from you at being the accuser of your spouse. That guilt and shame you keep heaping upon your mates head will only instill lack of confidence, fear of failure, breakdown in communication, anger and bitterness. Matthew 7:1 says to not judge others or you will be judged the same way. I don’t know about you but I do not need or want more judgment in my own life. So I totally think it’s time to let bygones be bygones, decide to forgive the past and give it to God. Learn once again to start putting trust into your mate and encourage them, love them and honor them. Most of all pray for them because we all need help and guidance on this journey of life.

Filed Under: Better Than Newlyweds Tagged With: communication, Judging Keys, life, love

Better than Brittle

February 2, 2013 by Meeke

Wil the Great and Me Me: Wil look at this 2 lb. bucket of peanut brittle I got on sale at Sams. It was $2.91, Christmas clearance….do you like peanut brittle? Wil: Um no… Me: But you love mixed nuts, this has peanuts in it! Wil: It’s kinda not the same thing. Me: Wow I can’t believe I bought this huge bucket and you don’t even like it! Wil: It’s alright it won’t go to waste, it’ll be taken care of.. Me: (trying to be offended but unable to muster it…cuz it’s true…) Ahahahahaha (Mental Trip: That’s why I didn’t get you any mixed nuts from Sams… and you should know it was like a thousand pound can…however NOT on clearance so the can is still there. Merry UnChristmas!)

In our relationship with our spouse we have so many opportunities to be offended. I think when we actually step back we realize that a lot of the things we waste time angry about are things we could have actually chosen to laugh about and in so doing create a fun Facebook post.

I could have taken Wil’s comment as a slam or an attack on my weight. I could have pointed out his insensitivity or reminded him of the fact that I’ve carried and delivered his three children back to back from 2007 to 2010. I could have held out my list of daily duties that make it a struggle for me to get to the gym. I could have dramatically declared my cooking strike. Or silently initiated my bedroom strike. As funny as these possibilities may be, most of us wives… do, have done, or will do this. Unfortunately, for both parties we lose time and unknowingly we injure relationship.

When I laughed at Wil the Great’s accurate assessment that I’ll have no problem taking care of the two- pound tub of peanut brittle I was actually creating safety in our relationship. A safety I’m actually desperate for. Conversely, when I pick apart everything he says. Or tell him what he means when he speaks, I’m creating volatility. I’m actually designing a man who will be so unsure of my responses from incident to incident that in many cases he will simply choose to remain silent. Which will anger me because as a woman built in my DNA is a craving for deep communication.

If you’re a wife reading this, make the decision to choose to see the best in your husband. Choose to filter his comments through the strong conviction that he loves you. When you do that you will create laughter and joy even at your expense. It’s worth it because with each of these moments you’re getting closer to the marriage you would script if you were Francine Rivers or Karen Kingsbury. There will be plenty of opportunities to hash out legitimate offenses such as: toilet paper roll replacement, trash can retrieval, or the necessity of warming your cold feet on his warm legs. I’m simply saying don’t wast time on counterfeit offenses. 🙂

By the way I’m almost done with the peanut brittle and it hasn’t taken very long. I guess Wil the Great can’t help his prophetic bent.

Behold the actual two-pound tub of brittle. What a yummy find! I love clearance!
brittle
– Meeke

Filed Under: Better Than Newlyweds, Communication is KEY! Tagged With: communication, DNA, marriage

Positive Communication | Marriage Today | Jimmy Evans

January 11, 2013 by marriagetoday

Positive Communication | Marriage Today | Jimmy Evans
Jimmy Evans discusses common problems spouses have when communicating with each other and practical skills for achieving successful communication in marriage. Marriage on the Rock series order page: www.marriagetoday.com
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Hi, I’m Stacy!

I am married to the Love of my life... my Prince. We strive daily to have a marriage better than newlyweds. We want to know each other better than when we were first wed. We want to please God by serving each other. Marriage is so important as it represents the relationship between God and His church... we must protect it and fight for ours. Read More…

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