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WORDS BREED WORDS

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Hello ladies, sorry it took me so long to share again. We all know life gets tough around the holidays but also unfortunately our laptop got stolen so my typing was restricted temporarily. Thanks to my wonderful husband and Christmas blesssings I am back on the keyboard again. This last five months have been a powerful transtion for me. God never ceases to teach us new things if we allow him to. I was doing my devotions one day and ran across a wonderful encouragment. It was a challenge, https://www.reviveourhearts.com/articles/30-day-husband-encouragement-challenge/.

When I first read through it I thought, oh how nice for somene. I immediately began to hear God tug on my heart. You see, like many of us do, I had been complaining to God and asking him to help my husband. He is more thoughtful than most and a great husband but we had been at odds about an important decision and that had brought distance between us. I had been longing to hear key encouraging words. I had been praying that God would give me grace for him and give him wisdom to say the words I needed to hear.  What I was not considering is my words to him. I was not saying negative things necessarily. I have learned to guard my mouth against that but my silence left a huge gap. He knows me well enough to know when I am staying quiet and I definitely wasn’t encouraging him like I needed to .

So while I asked God to show him I needed his loving encouragment, God saw that Wade needed my words desperately too. I started the challenge a little cautiously and honestly not entirely optimisically. OK God, I’ll give it a try. Right off the bat I noticed that each day God would give me the perfect set up to say the encouraging word that I had prayed to give that day. HE didn’t respond in any extreme way at first but gradually I noticed his attitude lighten and his face would change. HIs love tank was getting fuller, he was feeling encouraged. There were some days where I would read the challenge in the morning and think, oh God I am not sure I can say that honestly or keep my tongue from negative words if this or if that… God was not worried and day after day he gave me the strength and the joy that comes from obeying. It got to the point where I was looking forward to my encouragement moment each day, even getting giddy about it.

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The most striking moment was the day when my hubby pulled me aside and began to say the exact words I had been begging God to hear five months before. My heart lept, my love tank swelled and I was overwhelmed by the Joy I felt. God was answering my prayers AS I put my hubby first and obeyed my father who knew just what both of us needed. IF I can encourage you today to try this challenge I know that it will bless your marriage, whether it is words that you are longing to hear or a big decision you wish you could get on page about . Whether it is a negative spirit in your home that you are trying to get past or a simple feeling of apathy you want to rid your marriage of, this challenge will totally Revive and Bless your marriage if you trust that God will use your obedience to bless your marriage. WE can only change ourselves, but words are breeding words in your life, are you reproducing truth or lies? Are you breeding trust or hurt, love or negative thoughts. God Bless you as you take this on, please share  the testimonies after you do. God is so Good! I love how he’s keeping us honeymooners for life:) Almost nine years and I love him more everyday! Celeste

marriage tip #5 – Over-communicate. – from a woman who has triumphed the murky waters of divorce

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Over-communicate.  – I used to have a bad habit of not speaking my feelings. I played the standard “You should know why I’m mad” game, and that’s just downright unfair. Men are not wired like women, and they DON’T always know that they’ve been insensitive. I’m still growing in this area, and there are often times when my husband has to pry something out of me, but I’m trying to remember that I need to just communicate how I feel.

I always try to learn from other peoples mistakes. If someone has been there before and learned from their mistakes and are willing to give me advice and tips for the future… it doesn’t hurt to listen. I then weight that advice against the Bible and in prayer and let God be my ultimate guide. In this case the advice comes from a woman who has been married and then divorced. I do no want to travel down that road. When we got married we said it wasn’t even an option. I’d like to keep it that way by learning what I can and applying it to our marriage! I hope you get something out of this that you can apply to yours! 

via 10 Marriage Tips Every WIFE Needs to Hear | Eighth Rising.

marriage tip #4 – Forgive. – from a woman who has triumphed the murky waters of divorce

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Forgive.  – No one is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes. If you make forgiveness a habit – for everything from major mistakes to little annoyances (every day, I have to forgive my husband for leaving the wet towel on the bathroom counter ) – you will keep resentment from growing.

I always try to learn from other peoples mistakes. If someone has been there before and learned from their mistakes and are willing to give me advice and tips for the future… it doesn’t hurt to listen. I then weight that advice against the Bible and in prayer and let God be my ultimate guide. In this case the advice comes from a woman who has been married and then divorced. I do no want to travel down that road. When we got married we said it wasn’t even an option. I’d like to keep it that way by learning what I can and applying it to our marriage! I hope you get something out of this that you can apply to yours! 

via 10 Marriage Tips Every WIFE Needs to Hear | Eighth Rising.

marriage tip #3 – God, husband, kids…in that order. – from a woman who has triumphed the murky waters of divorce

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I always try to learn from other peoples mistakes. If someone has been there before and learned from their mistakes and are willing to give me advice and tips for the future… it doesn’t hurt to listen. I then weight that advice against the Bible and in prayer and let God be my ultimate guide. In this case the advice comes from a woman who has been married and then divorced. I do no want to travel down that road. When we got married we said it wasn’t even an option. I’d like to keep it that way by learning what I can and applying it to our marriage! I hope you get something out of this that you can apply to yours! 

God, husband, kids…in that order.  – I know this isn’t a popular philosophy, especially among mothers, but hear me out. It’s no secret that my faith is of utmost importance, so God comes first in my life no matter what. But regardless of your belief system, your husband should come before your kids. Now unless you’re married to someone who is abusive  (in which case, I urge you to seek help beyond what my blog can give you), no man in his right mind would ask you to put your kids aside to serve his every need while neglecting them. That’s not what this means. When you board an airplane, the flight attendants are required to go over emergency preparedness prior to takeoff. When explaining the part about how to operate the oxygen mask, passengers are instructed to first put the mask on themselves before putting it on their small child. Is that because they think you are more important than your kids? Absolutely not. But you cannot effectively help your child if you can’t breathe yourself. The same holds true with marriage and parenting. You cannot effectively parent your children if your marriage is falling apart. Take it from me – I tried. There will also come a time when your kids will leave the house to pursue their dreams as adults. If you have not cultivated a lasting relationship with your spouse, you will have both empty nests and empty hearts.

via 10 Marriage Tips Every WIFE Needs to Hear | Eighth Rising.

marriage tip #1 – from a woman who has triumphed the murky waters of divorce

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I always try to learn from other peoples mistakes. If someone has been there before and learned from their mistakes and are willing to give me advice and tips for the future… it doesn’t hurt to listen. I then weight that advice against the Bible and in prayer and let God be my ultimate guide. In this case the advice comes from a woman who has been married and then divorced. I do no want to travel down that road. When we got married we said it wasn’t even an option. I’d like to keep it that way by learning what I can and applying it to our marriage! I hope you get something out of this that you can apply to yours! 

wise marriage tips – from a woman who has triumphed the murky waters of divorce.

Respect your husband.  – Notice how it doesn’t say “Respect your husband if he has earned it”. A man’s greatest need in this world is to be respected, and the person he desires that respect from the most is his wife.  The trap that we’ve all been ensnared by is that they only deserve our respect when they earn it. Yes, we want our husbands to make decisions that will ultimately garner our respect, but the truth is that your husband is a human being. A human being who makes mistakes. This is the man that YOU have chosen to walk alongside you for the rest of your life, and to lead your family and he needs to be respected for that quality alone. Take it from me – when respect is given even when he doesn’t deserve it, it will motivate him to earn it. That doesn’t mean you pretend that his choices are good ones when they aren’t. Things like that still need to be communicated, but you can flesh out your differences WITH RESPECT. It makes all the difference in the world to him.

via 10 Marriage Tips Every WIFE Needs to Hear | Eighth Rising.

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