• Home
  • About
  • Shop
  • Start Blogging
  • Blogging Resources

Better Than Newlyweds

Where the Honeymoon never ends!

LETTING BITTERNESS GO | Better Than Newlyweds

August 2, 2014 by James Ogunyemi

Keys to a better marriage: letting bitterness go:

Let your bitterness go. Don’t hold on to it. Don’t allow it to eat you up until it turns to anger or hatred. Bitterness can show up in many ways in your relationship, it can come from past unresolved hurts and pains, unfilled expectations, your spouse hurting you with unkind words or actions and of course sins.

Bitterness grows when we fail to forgive and let go. Jesus asked us to always be in the forgiveness mode when He told the disciples to forgive 70 times 7 Mat 18:22. I know what you might be thinking, we all know we should forgive but its not easy. Jesus also said, “Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice” (Ephesians 4:31).

Forgiveness is very important in moving forward in any relationship. So the question is how do we do that. First if possible you need to talk to your mate about the problems. Do you know sometimes you mate may not even be aware they are hurting you. You need to be willing to look inwardly. Can you pray and seek God on what is causing this bitterness, what is at the root. Once you know and understand the reasons you can repent and pray the word over it and allow the Holy Spirit to begin dealing with it.

Of course you must learn to forgive your spouse. You will not always feel it at first. But work at it. Feeling follow confession. Begin watering the relationship with kind words and strive to find ways to build one another up. Most of all begin praying for one another and pray together to soften one another hearts and build your relationship with the Father. Strive to become better communicators to help stop hurting one another. If nothing else be willing to humble yourself and seek counseling.

I believe every relationship can be saved if each spouse is willing to yield to God’s leading and learn to forgive one another. This is not an easy key but it has great potential for freedom and liberty. Learn to let go bitterness and learn to forgive. When you do this, you will live a life of peace.

James Ogunyemi

Filed Under: Better Than Newlyweds Tagged With: God, Holy Spirit, James Ogunyem, life

STEPS TO MARRIAGE RECONCILIATION | Better Than Newlyweds

April 4, 2014 by James Ogunyemi

STEPS TO MARRIAGE RECONCILIATIONdecision-13550502488fQ

These steps will put you and your spouse back on the right track if you will prayerfully follow it and ask God to help both of you put them into practice .

1. Swallow Your Pride – The Bible says, pride comes before the fall. That means pride will always lead to your destruction. In this case, the destruction of your marriage is at hand if you don’t swallow your pride. So take a long hard look at yourself. Are you the kind of person you really want to see. That’s right. Even if you believe your partner is the blame for the breakdown of your marriage. Examine yourself to see what you could have done differently. Now accept responsibility for your actions and be willing to admit your mistakes. None is perfect and we all make mistakes. Be ready to say am sorry and lower your ego.

2. Forgive – Once you’ve swallowed pride, you should ask for forgiveness and then extend forgiveness to your spouse for their offenses against you. Forgiveness must always be a two way street. It is not and should not be a one way lane. If you think she is the one that offends you, you too must have done something that was overlooked at.

3. Stop Blaming – Don’t waste time pointing fingers at each other. This sort of behavior is unproductive. Instead of approaching your conversations from the standpoint of me vs. you, approach your discussions from the standpoint of us vs. the problem. By doing so, you will avoid the blame game.

4. Learn from the Past – Use your marriage mistakes as a springboard to propel your relationship to a higher level. If you learn from your mistakes, you are less likely to repeat them.

5.Don’t bring the past into the future. Leave the Past in the Past – In other words, let go and move forward. Don’t remind your spouse of what s/ he did or how things use to be. If you really want reconciliation you’ve got to let go of the past. The past is history and should not be brought into the future.

6. Be Patient – Your marriage did not fall apart over night and therefore cannot be repaired over night. Rebuilding your marriage is a process that will take a lot of patience and determination from you.

7. Get Godly Counsel – Don’t seek ungodly or unqualified counsel from friends and peers who don’t know the Lord. As a child of God, you should only accept counsel from fellow believers who are spiritually mature and from those that God has called into such ministry.

8. Allow the Holy Spirit to work in you and your spouse. It is when we submit to the leadership and guidance of the Holy Spirit that we can have true reconciliation. The Holy Spirit knows us all and knows how to deal with us when we surrender to him.

9. Be Honest. Be honest with your spouse. Especially in the area of finance. This is one of the thing that rocks marriages and capsize the boat of most marriage. We should also be honest in all other areas. Be ready to admit when confronted with wrong and be quick to say am sorry. This will help marriage union to be fruitful.

10. Control your Temper and Anger. One of the steps to true reconciliation in marriages is the control of temper and anger management. Your temper can mar things coupled with fierce anger. You should be able to put it under control. Lastly Trust one another. Live in trust and allow trust to rule your home. James Ogunyemi

Filed Under: Be Romantic, Better Than Newlyweds, Communication is KEY! Tagged With: God, Holy Spirit, Lastly Trust, marriage

Hi, I’m Stacy!

I am married to the Love of my life... my Prince. We strive daily to have a marriage better than newlyweds. We want to know each other better than when we were first wed. We want to please God by serving each other. Marriage is so important as it represents the relationship between God and His church... we must protect it and fight for ours. Read More…

Good Reads for Your Marriage:

679599: The Love Dare The Love Dare
By Stephen Kendrick & Alex Kendrick
{These are affiliate links but I truly believe these books would add value to your marriage.}

Recent Posts

  • 5 BIBLE VERSES FOR TROUBLED MARRIAGES | Stacy Hudson
  • More than a baby was delivered when I gave birth | Stacy Hudson
  • What I’ve learned Being Married to an Agnostic | Guest Blogger: Ailie Baumann
  • How to Improve Communication in Your Marriage | Stacy Hudson
  • How to Put the Spark Back in Your Marriage | Stacy Hudson

AFFILIATE DISCLOSURE

BetterThanNewlyweds.com is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to Amazon.com. All opinions expressed in these reviews are our own. We only bring you the products.
*Disclosure: On occasion, “affiliate links” may appear on this website. This means that when clicked and the item is purchased, the seller sends me an affiliate commission. This helps me keep this blog up and running. The item’s price is not affected in any way. Only items I believe my readers will enjoy are linked in this way.
  • Home
  • About
  • Shop
  • Start Blogging
  • Blogging Resources
Information is shared for educational purposes. Ownership of content remains with it's original publisher. If you feel we have made an error please contact us know so we can remedy the situation.

Copyright © 2023 · Lifestyle Pro Theme on Genesis Framework · WordPress · Log in

 

Loading Comments...