Let’s say you and I are sitting together chatting enjoying a nice cup of coffee and you tell me “my husband doesn’t satisfy me.” I imagine most women would expect and want a response along the lines of “how selfish of him… why won’t he change to make you happy sometimes?!” However, if you and I were having coffee…that means we are friends… and I share the truth in Love with my friends. Because I care about them and their marriages BUT also because I care about their eternity more than I do their feelings.
In that moment I would have to tell you that it isn’t your husband’s job to satisfy you. That is something only God can do and your husband will always fall short. And that as long as you are looking to your husband to satisfy you and fill the void you have…. you will continue to say “my husband doesn’t satisfy me.”
For he satisfies the longing soul, and the hungry soul he fills with good things. (Psalm 107:9)
We must be careful to remember that the “He” in the above verse is NOT our husband but God.
In your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore. (Psalm 16:11)
Lysa Terkeurst says it pefectly in her post at Proverbs31 .org:
To expect another person to make you feel happy, secure and fulfilled will leave you disappointed at best and disillusioned at worst. Even a great husband makes a very poor God.
Only God Himself can settle those deep heart-needs. Our key verse, Philippians 4:19 reminds us of this, “And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.”
If a husband could meet every need his wife had, we’d have no need for God.
The sooner a wife accepts that her husband doesn’t satisfy all her needs because he can’t…that that was never his job… the sooner their marriage can grow to become all that God intended it to be with Jesus at the center.
If you long for God to be your satisfaction pray with me:
Lord, I realize I have been searching for satisfaction in the wrong places. I have been complaining saying “my husband doesn’t satisfy me” when that was never his job. Please help me to seek You as my source and the only one who can fulfill and satisfy my soul. I desire to trust You to meet my needs. Help me to not put the pressure of meeting all my needs and desires on my husband. I pray that he would seek You as his source of satisfaction as well. Help us to keep You first knowing that You are able to do more than we can ask or imagine. We Love You and thank You for all of our blessings. Give us Your wisdom and direction as we seek to be more like You and help us Love like You. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.