Stop the Judging: Keys to a better marriage:
Your key today is to stop judging your spouse for past mistakes. I can tell you from experience that having a memory like an elephant for your spouse’s past failures will not serve you well in marriage. None of us like having past trash dragged up and throw in our face every time we have a confrontation. I like to think as I have journeyed through this life I am learning from my mistakes and also learning to improve. The question is, are you letting you spouse move past their errors in judgment or do you make sure they never forget? We are called to be encouragers of one another not the judge, jury and prosecutor. I can assure you that the devil does not need any help from you at being the accuser of your spouse. That guilt and shame you keep heaping upon your mates head will only instill lack of confidence, fear of failure, breakdown in communication, anger and bitterness. Matthew 7:1 says to not judge others or you will be judged the same way. I don’t know about you but I do not need or want more judgment in my own life. So I totally think it’s time to let bygones be bygones, decide to forgive the past and give it to God. Learn once again to start putting trust into your mate and encourage them, love them and honor them. Most of all pray for them because we all need help and guidance on this journey of life.