When I first had the idea for this post…it was going to be aimed at single people. It was going to be sort of as a word of advice in preparation for marriage. But as I thought about it and what it meant…I thought…surely single people aren’t the only ones that shouldn’t settle. Married couples shouldn’t either.

Just because we get married doesn’t mean that things get easier and that we “live happily ever after”… without work! It isn’t easy to be two people and live a life as one. That takes work. That is why it is important not to settle while dating and choosing who you marry. Pick someone who isn’t afraid of dealing with the truth and working thru it. And for those of us who are married… don’t settle for easy in your marriage. It is not easy to tell your spouse that something they did hurt your feelings… it’s not easy to tell your spouse that you messed up and you’re sorry…it’s not easy to (fill in your own words here)…but it IS necessary for a marriage to last! Well, for it to last and be a happy, healthy, and hopeful marriage! It could last but if you avoid the truth and make no effort to grow… I have a hard time thinking that marriage will be healthy.

In marriage…don’t settle for boring either. Try to make an effort to be romantic. I am not just talking to the husbands either! A simple note left for them to see before they leave for work could set the course for their whole day! Why not send them a text during the day letting them know you are thinking about them and Love them. That might be just what they need to make it thru the day. Being romantic doesn’t have to be extravagant. Being romantic can be realistic too.

What can you do to let your spouse know that you don’t want to settle in your marriage?