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Marriage and Motherhood are Wonderful Teachers | Stacy Hudson

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Marriage and Motherhood can teach us a lot if we let them.

{So I didn’t get the below blog post published in time to go out in the “Marriage Monday” email… but I’m not letting that stop me. I wrote the below on 10-25-2015 at around 1 in the morning.}

I’m just now getting to bed after a long but wonderful day that was proceeded by a long but not so wonderful day and night. My sister-in-love (my hubby’s sister) got married today! And We were up all last night with our baby girl and a stomach virus.

I’m just laying here looking at the two most precious blessings in my life. I would take their picture but I don’t want to risk waking them. This is one memory I’m going to have to tuck away in my heart for safe keeping.

They are my two most precious blessings and they are also my greatest trials.

Let me explain. 🙂

Marriage and Motherhood are Wonderful Teachers

Marriage is a wonderful teacher. When my husband and I have disagreements (I prefer to call them “disagreements” rather than fighting! 😉 ) I always learn more about myself and how I need to grow and change. I see my selfishness. I see my impatience. I also learn more about my hubby. I see his kind heart and his patience with me. Those things are what I remember after we have a “disagreement”. After all, those are the important things.

Motherhood is a wonderful teacher also. With our sweet baby girl… well… motherhood is just hard….And that is an understatement. I have a new appreciation for my mom and all moms out there.

Every sleepless night and every night filled with crying fits and a wide awake baby…they end up teaching me something. I learn that I am stronger than I think I am. I learn that my husband is more caring than I ever knew. I learn that the patience I have with my baby and the joy I get from watching her learn new things is how God is patient with me. He also delights when I learn new ways to honor Him and live a Godly life. In the middle of it though… to be honest… I usually hate it… and I often ask “why is motherhood like this?” There is almost nothing more heartbreaking than a crying baby that nothing seems to help. 🙁 But once we are on the other side of it… and she is sleeping peacefully on my chest… a calm comes over me and I feel like I can do it again the next day. As my mom often sings… “One day at a time.”

I would encourage you to try to and remember those things. Look at what you can learn from the trials in your life. God is always patient with you and wanting teach you something new about yourself and those in your life.

Marriage and Motherhood are wonderful teachers if we are willing students.

Easier said than done I know… but just try. It is better than remembering the bad things that make us bitter and I bet we are all pretty good at that. It’s time we change our focus. It’s time we focus on God.

 

DON’T TAKE YOUR SPOUSE FOR GRANTED

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DON’T TAKE YOUR SPOUSE FOR GRANTED

There are times we take people for granted including our relationships, most especially our relationship with our spouse or partner.

Never take your relationship for granted. When we do that we are making room for the enemy to infiltrate our homes. The word says that he that finds a wife finds a good thing. That also means the reverse is true that a wife that finds a husband finds a good thing. God gave you his wonderful grace and mercy when he let you have one of his special children. We are not perfect but we are special in our own way.

The truth is God gives us that special someone to help us grow and to help them grow. So you need to be ready for some stretching and a little adjustment. Another thing is to never let your marriage becomes ordinary or just one of those things.

Your marriage is superb and extra ordinary and you should see it that way. What you should do is to be on your knees everyday and thank God that he gave you such a wonderful person and learn how to be a blessing and a helper. God has entrusted to your care a great gift. You need to learn how to admire one another for your God given gifts and abilities.

There is nothing more important then seeking God daily for your spouse, family and relationship, you pray that God would make your union a blissful one. God has truly blessed you to have a mate that loves and cares for you and the one that will stand with you and by you in tough and rough times.

You stand in your commitment towards your spouse and believe in him/her. Take your home seriously and guide it jealously. Watch and guard your relationship. Don’t take anything for granted. Remember the ace/s is in your hands to make your marriage a success.

DON’T TAKE YOUR SPOUSE FOR GRANTED

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DON’T TAKE YOUR SPOUSE FOR GRANTED

dancing

There are times we take people for granted including our relationships, most especially our relationship with our spouse or partner.

Never take your relationship for granted. When we do that we are making room for the enemy to infiltrate our homes. The word says that he that finds a wife finds a good thing. That also means the reverse is true that a wife that finds a husband finds a good thing. God gave you his wonderful grace and mercy when he let you have one of his special children. We are not perfect but we are special in our own way.

The truth is God gives us that special someone to help us grow and to help them grow. So you need to be ready for some stretching and a little adjustment. Another thing is to never let your marriage becomes ordinary or just one of those things.

Your marriage is superb and extra ordinary and you should see it that way. What you should do is to be on your knees everyday and thank God that he gave you such a wonderful person and learn how to be a blessing and a helper. God has entrusted to your care a great gift. You need to learn how to admire one another for your God given gifts and abilities.

There is nothing more important then seeking God daily for your spouse, family and relationship, you pray that God would make your union a blissful one. God has truly blessed you to have a mate that loves and cares for you and the one that will stand with you and by you in tough and rough times.

You stand in your commitment towards your spouse and believe in him/her. Take your home seriously and guide it jealously. Watch and guard your relationship. Don’t take anything for granted. Remember the ace/s is in your hands to make your marriage a success.

DIY: Reclaimed mirror spray painted and made new

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Decorating a new house is a huge task! When we got married we moved in to the house my husband already had and we tried to make it our own BUT we knew we would be trying to sell it soon so we didn’t really decorate it. We tried to sell it before we got married but it didn’t happen so we took it off the market and I moved in after the wedding and we were there for about a year before deciding to move closer to my side of the family. The year of “seclusion” (it seemed so far from anything for me!) was good for us in a way because it allowed us to focus on each other with less distractions. So our first year of marriage was sometimes hard but also wonderful because when we had a tough time… or a glorious time… we were closest to each other. We really became each others best friends…. more than before. Any who, back to the house!

mirror on wall 2 facing fireplace

Above is the living room in our 2nd house! After moving in to this house we knew we would be here for at least 5 years (according to our plan anyways… God can always shake things up a bit!) SOOOO I was going to be able to decorate! We were finally going to be able to make our house a Home! 😀 Once we finally figured out our furniture layout (thanks to my amazing hubby!) it was time to decorate the wall! 😀 yay! I really wanted something over the couch BUT I didn’t want to spend a lot of money! yanno how that goes? So the search began and I finally came across this mirror below and claimed it as our own… and got it for a steal at $20! I knew I could spray paint it white and it would fit in and be right at home in our new house! 😀

blue mirror
blue mirror up close

I liked the decorative pattern on the reclaimed mirror too! That was an added bonus! To get it ready for painting I stuck newspaper under the edges of the side and taped the papers together… I then set up a tarp outside and after wiping down the mirror edges free of dust and sanding any rough spots…. I painted the first coat! 😀

blue mirror before paint
blue mirror after paint

 

It took 2 coats to make the reclaimed mirror look ok but I went ahead and did a third coat to make it a more solid and crisp white since the darker blue underneath was hard to cover up! 😀 After I finished painting I decided to plat with sanding it and making it have worn spots. Once I was pleased with how those came out… on the wall it went! 😀


 mirror on wall

 

I have since added frames to the side of the reclaimed mirror and filled them with pictures of people we Love. 🙂

Proverbs 14:1 ” The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish tears it down with her own hands.”

What is your favorite DIY project? Have a link to one you have done… please share below! 😀 Thanks for reading!

 

 

KEEPING SEX FREE

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Keeping sex free
We have probably all heard it, they make jokes about it on TV that married couples are always saying “I don’t get sex, I am married” or some other comment like that. This happens a lot because sex is uses as a control feature in a relationship. If you do everything right you can have it but if you do anything wrong the answer is no. The bible says in 1 Cor. 7:5 paraphrased to only not give each other sex for times of fasting and prayers and then to come back together so you are not tempted by the devil. God understands our need for human closeness and actually designed sex to be wonderful and fulfilling. There are so many biological processes that are restored and renewed by this act within a married couple. I encourage all of you reading this today to not use sex only for reward and punishment. If you are doing this you can drive each other apart. Once the sex grows cold in a relationship it does not take a lot for the devil to start dislodging some other bricks of your marriage house. So I tell you all to take up this key and once again become open to the loving advances of each other. Maybe its a little time in each others arms this is exactly what’s needed to start turning your relationship around. .

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