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BE FREE part 3: Trade in Your Fear for Trust | Better Than Newlyweds | Stacy Hudson

April 4, 2016 by Mrs. Hudson

Celebrating our daughter’s first birthday came quicker than I thought it would! I know I know…. it was a year on the calendar BUT it still snuck up on us! This past year, time went by slowly and quickly all at the same time.  While we were decorating for the party my mom said “just think about what you were doing this time a year ago!” and I said “naaaaah” …. See… This time last year I spent 6 uncomfortable,painful, exhausting, and honestly…. traumatizing days in the hospital. 70 hours of labor. 3 hours of pushing. I plan on sharing my birth story soon. Once I can gather the words together.

During our stay I had several… ummm…. unpleasant procedures done. Unpleasant is putting it very lightly. I won’t go into those details here… I’ll save that for my birth story post.  One of the procedures was so painful that I told all the nurses and doctors that I was not having anymore kids. The procedure was supposed to happen every 6 hours and from the moment it happened I started dreading the next time! After about 3 hours I got a new doctor (because our stay was so long we had a new one each day) and I explained to her how painful it was and how it made me not want to have anymore kids and she said “well, we can’t have that!” and she changed my orders and the procedure was not done again! I am pretty sure I said “Thank You Jesus!” when she did that!

However, that moment had planted a seed of fear. The pain from a few more procedures to come would water that seed. The coming days, weeks, and months of motherhood and all the challenges that brought would also feed the seed of fear. Motherhood was not what I had imagined. It was a shock to my system I didn’t know how to control. And the truth is I couldn’t control it but I was trying to anyways and I wore myself out.  I did not know fear had been planted until I got a text from a friend that she had had a dream that I was pregnant and was due in September! At the time that would have meant I was pregnant…. right then! The text made fear show its ugly head and I finally recognized that I was scared of being pregnant again.

The Lord used my friends dream to reveal to me that I was living in fear of one of His gifts. I did not want to fear a gift from the Lord. I wanted to be a grateful daughter. If I was pregnant I wanted to praise the Lord instead of allow the enemy to shackle me with fear. I wanted to be free enough to accept this gift if it was being given.

 Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him. Psalm 127:3

See… since my friend shared her dream with me it made a big part of me think I was pregnant and just didn’t know it yet.  That thought made me face the possibility and I had to deal with it. I shared all of this with my Bible Study ladies when we met one week and of course they reminded me how God had already used my experiences for good. They helped me talk it out a bit… I usually don’t even know I need to “talk something out” until I go to group! (PLUG: Find a Bible Study group and start going this week! 😀 )

They also prayed for me and reminded me that God is the redeemer of all things. And that if I had been pregnant God would use it to redeem my last experience.

You came near when I called on you; you said, ‘Do not fear!’ “You have taken up my cause, O Lord; you have redeemed my life. Lamentations 3:57-58

Over the next couple of weeks God did a work in me. One of the moments where things really started to shift in my heart as well as my mind was at church one Sunday. Our Pastor’s wife was sharing and was about to pray for people with fear. She listed several things …. but the one that hit me was when she said I want to pray for “anyone with fear of a baby”… I thought to myself “what did she just say? who says that? fear… of a baby?!” BUT then it hit me that that was for me…that that was me. Sitting next to my sweet hubby holding our almost one year old baby girl I was reminded of God’s faithfulness over the last year… I wanted to trust God. So I laid down that fear in order to be able to pick up trust instead… to be free… I purposefully traded in my fear for trust. Trust that God’s timing would be best. Trust that He would always work things out for my good. Trust that He would deliver me from all my fears and be with me if I ever had to deliver a baby again.

And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28

 I sought the Lord, and he answered me; he delivered me from all my fears. Psalm 34:4

 

Filed Under: Better Than Newlyweds Tagged With: Bible Study, God, kids, motherhood

Marriage and Motherhood are Wonderful Teachers | Stacy Hudson

October 26, 2015 by Mrs. Hudson

Marriage and Motherhood can teach us a lot if we let them.

{So I didn’t get the below blog post published in time to go out in the “Marriage Monday” email… but I’m not letting that stop me. I wrote the below on 10-25-2015 at around 1 in the morning.}

I’m just now getting to bed after a long but wonderful day that was proceeded by a long but not so wonderful day and night. My sister-in-love (my hubby’s sister) got married today! And We were up all last night with our baby girl and a stomach virus.

I’m just laying here looking at the two most precious blessings in my life. I would take their picture but I don’t want to risk waking them. This is one memory I’m going to have to tuck away in my heart for safe keeping.

They are my two most precious blessings and they are also my greatest trials.

Let me explain. 🙂

Marriage and Motherhood are Wonderful Teachers

Marriage is a wonderful teacher. When my husband and I have disagreements (I prefer to call them “disagreements” rather than fighting! 😉 ) I always learn more about myself and how I need to grow and change. I see my selfishness. I see my impatience. I also learn more about my hubby. I see his kind heart and his patience with me. Those things are what I remember after we have a “disagreement”. After all, those are the important things.

Motherhood is a wonderful teacher also. With our sweet baby girl… well… motherhood is just hard….And that is an understatement. I have a new appreciation for my mom and all moms out there.

Every sleepless night and every night filled with crying fits and a wide awake baby…they end up teaching me something. I learn that I am stronger than I think I am. I learn that my husband is more caring than I ever knew. I learn that the patience I have with my baby and the joy I get from watching her learn new things is how God is patient with me. He also delights when I learn new ways to honor Him and live a Godly life. In the middle of it though… to be honest… I usually hate it… and I often ask “why is motherhood like this?” There is almost nothing more heartbreaking than a crying baby that nothing seems to help. 🙁 But once we are on the other side of it… and she is sleeping peacefully on my chest… a calm comes over me and I feel like I can do it again the next day. As my mom often sings… “One day at a time.”

I would encourage you to try to and remember those things. Look at what you can learn from the trials in your life. God is always patient with you and wanting teach you something new about yourself and those in your life.

Marriage and Motherhood are wonderful teachers if we are willing students.

Easier said than done I know… but just try. It is better than remembering the bad things that make us bitter and I bet we are all pretty good at that. It’s time we change our focus. It’s time we focus on God.

 

Filed Under: Better Than Newlyweds Tagged With: blessings, God, heart, life, marriage, motherhood, trials

Hi, I’m Stacy!

I am married to the Love of my life... my Prince. We strive daily to have a marriage better than newlyweds. We want to know each other better than when we were first wed. We want to please God by serving each other. Marriage is so important as it represents the relationship between God and His church... we must protect it and fight for ours. Read More…

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