Yielding my marriage to God is not easy. Giving up control of anything I care about is not easy. However, because I care so much is the reason yielding to God is the best choice. God is faithful and is working all things out for my good and I need to walk in that. When I hold on to control my marriage becomes a wreck as well as many other areas of my life. When I trust God and yield… I have peace. A peaceful marriage is so much better than hanging on to control. Especially when hanging on to control only leaves me exhausted. Once I give up control and release my grip (from the edge of the cliff I was so afraid to drop from) I land on solid ground (only a few inches down) that God had waiting for me the whole time.
Last night Sarah woke up a bit ago crying. It was a pitiful cry. When I checked on her she was just sitting in her crib and it sounds silly but she looked lonely. So I picked her up and she wrapped her arms and legs around me. She gave me one of those hugs that makes time stand still. We all just need a hug sometimes right?
I sat holding her in the rocker and just talked to her. I was thinking how nice it was just to sit and hold her and it hit me that God wants to hold us and talk to us too. She likes to hear my voice and it calms her. I will pray out loud or talk to her and tell her all the people that Love her. It gives her peace to hear my voice. The list of things being a parent has helped me realize about God grows daily. If we will be still and let Him hold us He will give us peace too.
I often tell Sarah things that I hope will be seeds planted in her heart now and grow as she grows to help her depend on God through life. I tell her things like “no matter what happens in life, you praise Him and His peace will come”. I say “you praise him when others would be cursing his name because of Him we are not the same.” and that “we have to let God be God!” That last one seems so simple and obvious but I know we all struggle with it.
I am teaching Sarah to pray….P.R.A.Y.
When I was talking to her it hit me that of that list (pray-repent-ask-yield) most of us miss the yield part. We get so stuck on “but I’ve prayed about it” or “God knows my requests and I praise Him because He is in control”…and I get that mindset. We really think we have given Him control. However, I think we yield and then do a U turn! Or some of us never yield at all! What happens when you don’t yield while driving? ….Why are we surprised our lives are a wreck when we have not truly yielded to God.
When our relationship feels strained or things just aren’t going smoothly and I am wondering “why things are such a wreck?!”… if I stop and consider who is in control and if I am yielding my marriage to God… I get my answer.
If I am pushing my plans on my husband rather than praying for him… I am not yielding my marriage to God.
If I am worried about what others think more than what God thinks… I am not yielding my marriage to God.
If I am talking about him instead of talking with him…I am not yielding my marriage to God.