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Marriage and Motherhood are Wonderful Teachers | Stacy Hudson

October 26, 2015 by Mrs. Hudson

Marriage and Motherhood can teach us a lot if we let them.

{So I didn’t get the below blog post published in time to go out in the “Marriage Monday” email… but I’m not letting that stop me. I wrote the below on 10-25-2015 at around 1 in the morning.}

I’m just now getting to bed after a long but wonderful day that was proceeded by a long but not so wonderful day and night. My sister-in-love (my hubby’s sister) got married today! And We were up all last night with our baby girl and a stomach virus.

I’m just laying here looking at the two most precious blessings in my life. I would take their picture but I don’t want to risk waking them. This is one memory I’m going to have to tuck away in my heart for safe keeping.

They are my two most precious blessings and they are also my greatest trials.

Let me explain. 🙂

Marriage and Motherhood are Wonderful Teachers

Marriage is a wonderful teacher. When my husband and I have disagreements (I prefer to call them “disagreements” rather than fighting! 😉 ) I always learn more about myself and how I need to grow and change. I see my selfishness. I see my impatience. I also learn more about my hubby. I see his kind heart and his patience with me. Those things are what I remember after we have a “disagreement”. After all, those are the important things.

Motherhood is a wonderful teacher also. With our sweet baby girl… well… motherhood is just hard….And that is an understatement. I have a new appreciation for my mom and all moms out there.

Every sleepless night and every night filled with crying fits and a wide awake baby…they end up teaching me something. I learn that I am stronger than I think I am. I learn that my husband is more caring than I ever knew. I learn that the patience I have with my baby and the joy I get from watching her learn new things is how God is patient with me. He also delights when I learn new ways to honor Him and live a Godly life. In the middle of it though… to be honest… I usually hate it… and I often ask “why is motherhood like this?” There is almost nothing more heartbreaking than a crying baby that nothing seems to help. 🙁 But once we are on the other side of it… and she is sleeping peacefully on my chest… a calm comes over me and I feel like I can do it again the next day. As my mom often sings… “One day at a time.”

I would encourage you to try to and remember those things. Look at what you can learn from the trials in your life. God is always patient with you and wanting teach you something new about yourself and those in your life.

Marriage and Motherhood are wonderful teachers if we are willing students.

Easier said than done I know… but just try. It is better than remembering the bad things that make us bitter and I bet we are all pretty good at that. It’s time we change our focus. It’s time we focus on God.

DIY Valentine ideas for your spouse on a budget

January 25, 2014 by Mrs. Hudson

Don’t forget to do something special for your spouse for valentine’s day! If you are like us… you like to save money!

To save money I like to do low cost crafts or simple DIY things to make Valentine’s day special! A few things I do sometimes that cost $0 (or close to it!) are:

– Leave a sweet handwritten note by the coffee pot so he finds it in the morning

– Use a dry erase maker to leave a big heart on the bathroom mirror that he will see first thing!

– I got a pack of 12 plastic hearts from the dollar tree and filled each one with a Bible verse about Love and then hid them all over the house… it takes more than one day to find them all… it makes him feel special when he finds one on a “regular” day!

– make him breakfast that is ready when he wakes up!

– We like to rent movies at the Red Box… A sweet gesture on my part is to let him pick the movie…(and not complain if he picks a shoot em up! 😉 )

– Write out your prayer for your spouse and leave it for him to find… this lets them know how you are praying for them and how thankful you are for them!

For some more check the link below:

15 easy-to-make decorations that are guaranteed to bring love to your home.

via Inspiration For Moms: Valentine Craft Roundup.

marriage tip #2 – Guard your heart – from a woman who has triumphed the murky waters of divorce

December 1, 2013 by Mrs. Hudson

I always try to learn from other peoples mistakes. If someone has been there before and learned from their mistakes and are willing to give me advice and tips for the future… it doesn’t hurt to listen. I then weight that advice against the Bible and in prayer and let God be my ultimate guide. In this case the advice comes from a woman who has been married and then divorced. I do no want to travel down that road. When we got married we said it wasn’t even an option. I’d like to keep it that way by learning what I can and applying it to our marriage! I hope you get something out of this that you can apply to yours!

Guard your heart. – The grass is not greener on the other side. Do not believe the lie that with a slimmer figure, a higher salary, a faster car, or a bigger house, you will be a happier woman. The world is full of things and people that will serve as reminders that you don’t have the best of the best, but it’s simply not true. Live the life you’ve been blessed with, and BE THANKFUL. I get that we all have struggles, and there are even times when I would love 1,000 more square feet of house to live in, but square feet is not fulfilling – relationships are. Guard your heart from things and people that will try to convince you that your life or your husband is not good enough. There will always be bigger, faster, stronger, or shinier – but you’ll never be satisfied with more until you’re fulfilled with what you have now.

via 10 Marriage Tips Every WIFE Needs to Hear | Eighth Rising.

Love IS a Choice – A Marriage Restored

September 10, 2013 by Guest Blogger

This past weekend my husband and I celebrated our 6th wedding anniversary. An anniversary we both did not think was going to happen. A death with no sign of resurrection. 13 years of doing life together gone forever…

Separated and headed onto the hard road to divorce I hit my ground zero. My life shattered into pieces. A pain I had never felt before. A pain I know my husband had never felt before. But there was no turning back. We hurt each other too bad to fix it. There had to be “greener grass” elsewhere. We made a mistake marrying each other in the first place… All of the thoughts you thought you’d never have on the day you say “I do” with great anticipation of living “happily ever after.”

I was not feeling the love anymore. He was not feeling the love anymore. A sure sign that it was time we both move on.

Or was it?

When you hit rock bottom you realize there is no place to go, but up. My up was learning that love IS a choice. My up was letting go of control—surrendering all that I thought once was and allowing Christ to rebuild my life piece by piece. Did that include my marriage? I did not know, but from that day forward I knew I was being called to stand for it. I was called to lead my heart back to my husband. My marriage was worth fighting for.

It certainly could not be done by my own strength. I was weak and inadequate. I knew I would not be the one to change my husband’s heart. It would be beyond anything I could ever do. And so the journey began. The narrow path of leading one’s heart. A road I never imagined myself walking. Choosing brokenness in order to shatter any self-will. Humility and obedience at a new level. Walking by faith not by sight.

Days went by. Months went by. My heart changing in ways I never thought possible. Miracles unfolding before my very eyes. The biggest miracle of all right around the bend. Not only was my heart changing, but unbeknownst to me my husband’s was too.

After nearly two years of turmoil and heartache and a year of physical separation—restoration came. What once we thought impossible flourished into possible. A beauty only He could paint out of ashes.

Rebuilding trust. Healing hurt. A renewed marriage. All well worth the road less traveled.

A road we still walk day by day. We don’t ever want to quit progressing. It is what leads to stagnant. Stagnant leads to a discontentment, which opens the door to allow big problems to walk through.

Reconciling is by no means easy. It is a lot of really hard work. Marriage is hard work. It is a fight. A fight worth fighting every minute of every day. Falling in love with the same person over and over. A choice worth making.

Only Christ can turn our messes into messages, tests into testimony, and trials into triumph!

If you are at a crossroads this very moment—embrace the journey He has called you to. Allow Him to work His unconditional love into your heart and spouse’s. No matter how far gone you think your marriage may be – He can restore it. He breathes LIFE into death.

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I’ve got to brag on my husband for a minute!

May 20, 2013 by Mrs. Hudson

So for those who aren’t aware let me take a minute to put a little back story on this post… On Dec. 15th of last year my parents house burned down. They made it out safely by the grace of God but the house had to be knocked down and all that is left now is the slab. They are living with my grandmother for the time being until they finish rebuilding their house.

OK! …soooo yesterday we were hanging out with family after church after lunch and the topic of their yard came up and how the grass was so overgrown and it needed to be cut! My dad does not have a lawn mower anymore because it was in the garage during the fire and the garage is where the fire started.

Well, this morning my Love got up early and went to their land and mowed their grass! I am so blessed to be married to a man with a servant’s heart.

Here is the picture my mom shared on Facebook with her caption:

He is just a nice guy… so he just does stuff like this and probably doesn’t really know how much it means to me or to my parents. It means a lot to me that he would take his time and his energy to do this for my folks. They have a lot on their plate right now with figuring out their inventory for insurance and with getting the house plans finalized so they can begin to rebuild. So, the yard being neglected…even though it was on their to do list and in the back of their mind… was not a priority because they need to focus on the house inventory and plans. Him doing this took a little weight off their shoulders during a stressful time and to me… that means a lot. I Love him for so many reasons… his servant’s heart is just one of them.

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